Why I Decided to Date a Man Over 50
When others ask me why I decided to date a man over 50, I often start with a short story about my best friend Mandy. Not too long ago, Mandy broke up with her boyfriend of many years. While I was not at all surprised when it eventually happened, she was devastated. Mind you, she was actually the one who decided to dump him – and as far as I am concerned, for pretty solid reasons.
It was pretty obvious that she had been unhappy for a long time. In the end I am convinced she did the right thing. And yet, all she could talk about was that she felt she made a mistake. She went on and on about how she will never find the right one, and that she will be single forever. In other words, she mostly pitied herself and not leaving the actual relationship with that guy behind. In retrospective, her past relationship is the perfect example why I generally prefer dating older guys, and I will tell you why.
Why I decided to date a man over 50 after several unsuccessful relationships
My friend’s biggest issue with her ex boyfriend was that she felt he was too immature. This was most evident in the way he constantly felt like he had to prove himself. For me personally it was quite tedious to see, really. As a matter of fact, a lack of mature behaviour in younger men was the main reason why I decided to date a man over 50. Just like my friend Mandy, I was not always super happy with the relationships I had. Unfortunately, it can be quite difficult to realize why a relationship doesn’t work while you are in it.
Ending a relationship can be difficult
Often we don’t want to hurt our partner and try to focus on the positive things. However, sometimes we simply can’t admit to ourselves that we don’t get what we want from a relationship. This was definitely also true for me for a long time.
Why I decided to date a man over 50 – the reasons
As I mentioned, one of the main reasons why I decided to date a man over 50 was that I could no longer stand guys around my own age. I simply wanted to feel like I am dating somebody with life experience. I generally find that more mature men are sexy. Thus, I started to focus my dating efforts on guys who were at least well in their 40s. Admittedly, age is not always a reliable indicator for maturity. Nonetheless, I generally found that older men are much more settled, confident and relaxed.
To date a man over 50 can boost your own self-confidence
Another positive effect of relationships with more mature guys is that it can make yourself more self-confident, too. When you are with a young guy, you can easily get the feeling that you still have to compete with others. There are just so many other attractive young women out there. Jealousy is in fact one of the most common reasons why a relationship falls apart. When I tell other people why I decided to date a man over 50, I simply can’t help but bring this topic up. With my older partner, I have the feeling that I know exactly why he is with me. The constant feeling of being in a competition is something I definitely don’t miss.